Why Can Self-Belief Be So Elusive?

Why do people get trapped in a vicious circle of endeavouring to achieve and failing? Why does it happen that even when we shine at our presentation or get that job we’ve worked so hard for, we still feel incompetent?

Whether we talk about low self-esteem or getting the job we desire, the key to attaining that goal is ensuring that we have the right mind-set and self-belief is one of the key ingredients of success.

We can often know consciously what we are good, or even very skilled at but still can’t help imagining worst-case scenarios. This can lead to problems because when logic and imagination are in conflict, our imagination will almost always prevail. Imagination is a very powerful tool and has made huge contributions to our success as a species over the years but it can also become an impediment to our success if the thoughts we have are negative.

Our thoughts are what we actually tell ourselves and over time become an integral part of our belief system. Unfortunately, we were not all brought up in happy and supportive families. We did not all have that special someone to tell us we were smart, beautiful and worthy, or to praise and encourage us when we were doing well. Sometimes, we would only be noticed when we were mischievous and not ‘performing’ the way we were expected to.

As children, we do not have a critical faculty to be able to discern the harmful ideas so we believe what we are told and our subconscious mind records everything. Once the subconscious mind is convinced, it causes the individual to act upon that conviction.

As we get older, we may logically know what thoughts and habits are good for us, what we need to do, and what we are really good at and have already achieved in life but change can still seem hard to achieve. This is because the original primitive part of our mind sees change as a threat to our safety and, once a habit is established, whether practical or in our thoughts, any attempt to change that habit is perceived as dangerous and the subconscious mind will resist even more.

This is where hypnotherapy works best. It is a gentle yet powerful technique that uses suggestions and guided imagery to reach the subconscious mind and change negative thought patterns. The mind cannot tell the difference between imagination and reality so the mental images that are formed during hypnotherapy become positive templates for future use. Consequently, the subconscious mind will refer to them as though as they are real, and as such facilitate a sustainable and long-lasting change that impacts both the body and the mind.